Really frustating

[Terry Cain]

OK, I'm sure several of you guys and gals have went through a divorce but, this is my first after 28 years of marriage.
The frustating part is I'm 9 months away from retirement and now it looks like I won't be able to retire.
Was working OT out the *** to buildup pension so her & I could live comfortly and do some traveling and racing. Haven't had car out in three years because didn't have time to work on it or race it because of all the OT I was working.
I'm throwing up my hands now and just about ready to live in cardboard box.

[Phillip marvetz]

Cheaper to keep her

[art leong]

One word to the wise.
Keep it financial, not personal. The lawyers love it when 2 people battle each other. They make more money.
If you keep the emotion out of it. Both of you will be better off.
Remember this will come to pass. Use your head not your heart.

[Eddies66]

For what is it worth, Indiana, is an "equitable distribution" state. When it pertains to debts, both spouses have responsibility for debts jointly incurred during the marriage, solely incurred debts are the responsibility of the account holder spouse.

You may be able to protect your retirement from being considered property as it would be in a "community property" state.

[FED 387]

Better get a sharp laywer that knows what they are doing---as far as pension be very careful here she just might get a part of it every month if you're not careful !!!!! if the divorce settlement is not handled properly----as others have said think about yourself not her---at this point its over you had some good times and some bad ones-- maybe a coupla kids too---IT IS NOW STRICTLY ABOUT ASSESTS AND MONEY!!!! Think with your brain not your P@@#& --been there done that!!!

[SStockDart]

been there............time passes. Please don't do anything foolish.

[bobby]

Originally Posted by Phillip marvetz

Cheaper to keep her

Not worth the hassle.

Had one about 11 years ago, ex is still pestering me. I usually just say no to any questions she has, mostly asking for more money for our daughter ($700 a month child support isn't enough for one kid?). New wife (4 years in the making) is the most wonderful person I have ever met.

[Pistol Pete]

Sorry to hear that Terry, but like Ed said if you have your daughters side things will be good.
You got to keep the Racecars & i know if it were me, i would want to keep mine too.

Hang Tuff, things happen for a reason.

My 2nd wife is "The Best". Even does All of the cooking when i put out my Big BBQ
At Englishtown.

Good Luck in the future & God always has a plan...

Pistol Pete
1374
I/SA

[NewHemi]

As for putting your stuff in some else's name, be careful.

I had bought a nice little Porche Boxster right before my divorce hearing started. My lawyer said "hide that thing", so I "gifted" it to my girl friend of a couple years.

All was fine until I settled everything, and ask her to put it back into my name.

That is when she said, Oh I thought it was mine. So instead of paying insurance on it, I just sold it.

We didn't stay together too long after that.

Turns out, her attorney didn't like dealing with my ex wife any better than I did, and was just trying to get done with dealing with her. He never checked my bank accounts, or car titles, etc. Oh Well... You cant always count on that... But proceed with caution,

Your mileage may vary.

David
The New Hemi Guy

[Terry Cain]

Originally Posted by RaceIQ

Sorry to hear about the troubles.. Hopefully it all works out for the best.

I live in Georgetown too, btw.

Who are you? BO?