Really frustating

[Terry Cain]

OK, I'm sure several of you guys and gals have went through a divorce but, this is my first after 28 years of marriage.
The frustating part is I'm 9 months away from retirement and now it looks like I won't be able to retire.
Was working OT out the *** to buildup pension so her & I could live comfortly and do some traveling and racing. Haven't had car out in three years because didn't have time to work on it or race it because of all the OT I was working.
I'm throwing up my hands now and just about ready to live in cardboard box.

[Phillip marvetz]

Cheaper to keep her

[art leong]

One word to the wise.
Keep it financial, not personal. The lawyers love it when 2 people battle each other. They make more money.
If you keep the emotion out of it. Both of you will be better off.
Remember this will come to pass. Use your head not your heart.

[Eddies66]

For what is it worth, Indiana, is an "equitable distribution" state. When it pertains to debts, both spouses have responsibility for debts jointly incurred during the marriage, solely incurred debts are the responsibility of the account holder spouse.

You may be able to protect your retirement from being considered property as it would be in a "community property" state.

[FED 387]

Better get a sharp laywer that knows what they are doing---as far as pension be very careful here she just might get a part of it every month if you're not careful !!!!! if the divorce settlement is not handled properly----as others have said think about yourself not her---at this point its over you had some good times and some bad ones-- maybe a coupla kids too---IT IS NOW STRICTLY ABOUT ASSESTS AND MONEY!!!! Think with your brain not your P@@#& --been there done that!!!

[SStockDart]

been there............time passes. Please don't do anything foolish.

[NewHemi]

My first divorce, we divided things up. She got everything, and got my freedom, and we remain friends to the day.

My second divorce, she left me when I had some money problems, so I got all the debt, kept all of the possessions which sold well in my garage sale, and she got a new sugar daddy.

My third time, it took me two years to finally get divorced, and during that time I was diagnosed as having terminal lung cancer. And it still took me all of the time to buy her out, so I didn't have to continue to be bled out forever.

In all three cases, my cousin was my attorney, and specialized in Divorces. I guess that having me for a relative, gave him enough practice to specialize.

But one thing I figured out after three failed marriages, (I know I could just blame the fact that 2 out of 3 were flat out certifiable), but the truth is that I am just not very good at being married.

The best thing to do, is to let your attorney do the talking, hang your head like a beaten puppy hoping for sympathy, and only speak when the judge, or magistrate asks you a question.

I just hope that I will never have to explain my fourth divorce..

I wish you the best!

David
The New Hemi Guy

[Terry Cain]

Originally Posted by NewHemi

My first divorce, we divided things up. She got everything, and got my freedom, and we remain friends to the day.

My second divorce, she left me when I had some money problems, so I got all the debt, kept all of the possessions which sold well in my garage sale, and she got a new sugar daddy.

My third time, it took me two years to finally get divorced, and during that time I was diagnosed as having terminal lung cancer. And it still took me all of the time to buy her out, so I didn't have to continue to be bled out forever.

In all three cases, my cousin was my attorney, and specialized in Divorces. I guess that having me for a relative, gave him enough practice to specialize.

But one thing I figured out after three failed marriages, (I know I could just blame the fact that 2 out of 3 were flat out certifiable), but the truth is that I am just not very good at being married.

The best thing to do, is to let your attorney do the talking, hang your head like a beaten puppy hoping for sympathy, and only speak when the judge, or magistrate asks you a question.

I just hope that I will never have to explain my fourth divorce..

I wish you the best!

David
The New Hemi Guy

David,
Hope I don't have as much exp as you.
Thanks, everybody for advise. Can't talk long, gotta get race car going. It might be my only salvation. See ya at INDY.

[Terry Cain]

Originally Posted by RaceIQ

Sorry to hear about the troubles.. Hopefully it all works out for the best.

I live in Georgetown too, btw.

Who are you? BO?

[treessavoy]

Empty out all the bank accounts (get cash it's untraceable)
Sell all your race car parts, tools and car to a "friend" and hide it.
Hide all the things you want to keep: furniture, guns, antiques, etc.
Stop all credit cards and debit cards.
Hide all pictures you want to keep, personal effects and stuff like golf clubs, pool cues, bowling balls, etc.
Hire a Lawyer that used to torture people and cut off fingers and toes and turn him loose!
Ensure that she shares in all the debt and makes payments to you while the proceeding are going on.

You are now in a war to save your life, there is no love anymore, just war.

Sorry,
JimR