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04-20-2012, 09:20 AM | #12 |
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You really need to treat this like a business and take the emotion out of it. I can't speak from experience, I have been with the same women since 1977. But I have seen and processed alot of separation agreements. Take the emotion out of it and remember as you look around at all your toys and material items, all this items can be replaced in about 3 years. Good luck!
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Unfortunately I have been through 2 divorces. Both cost me quite a bit of money. The best thing you can do is to try to come to some sort of an agreement before you start the attorney thing. All the attorneys want is your money. If you fight each other it will cost both of you most everything you have. I was able to come to a fair and equitable setlement with both of my X's with little attorney input. There is no way you will come out of the divorce with all of your assets. You just need to decide which ones you really want and make a deal for them. This is a tough thing to get through but you will survive. Many of us have. Good Luck.
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I tried several weeks back to sit down and work out how we would divide stuff up. I gave her a written copy and the only main thing I wanted was for her to stay away from my retirement saving/pension. Agreed to give her half of appraisal value of house and I WOULD PAY OFF mortgage myself. She can have all the furnishing of house except for TV and BED. I guess if it got bad enough I could sleep in race car trailer. SHE STATED, I want half of it all so, there will be a fight. I'm sure.
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Better follow the two "Jim's" advise, and immediately!
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If there will be a fight, do what Jim said and go for the throat. My wife went to a shrink years ago who convinced her she had an alcoholic upbringing and I was an abusive husband. When it started to go sour I cancelled her cards, removed her name from everything and had a lawyer who had a lot of "dirty" tricks. When faced with this she backed down and we went through councelling. Come to find out (since I've never hit her ect) I'm NOT an abusing husband and while her mother is a wingnut, she can't use that as an excuse 30years later for some of the crap she was doing. we're still married and while she has flare ups of stupidity, generally speaking it's been good.
If it IS over though.....it really is you or her. This is not something you want to lose. Protect the sweat equity you've built in the last XX years. Find a friend who will "buy" everything you cherish for pennies on the dollar with the expectation of selling it back to you for the same price when the smoke clears. Good luck. |
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Terry,
Just keep working toward that goal. Both of my X's had that same attitude in the beginning but as time passed and we both got on with our lives things changed and thats when we were able to make our deals. Like the other guys said you should consult an attorney to find out what your rights are. Just remember you dont have to sign anything until you are ready too. In my first divorce I had to give up what I had in my retirement acct to keep my home. I was young at the time so that was not such a big deal. That was still a good deal for me. Keep an open mind and remember you will have to give on some things to get what you want.
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You can't make the money you get from selling your stuff disappear.Any half a**ed lawyer will find you out.Period.
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